Your Wildest Dreams Will Come True

See it. Believe it. Dream it. Do it.

Up until recently, I really struggled with chasing my dreams. I really struggled with confidence and I really struggled with fear. Taking a chance was too daunting of a task and the anxiety of just thinking of taking s risk sent me into full on panic attacks. 

When I was a little girl I had an aspiration to be something great. I’ve been writing ever since I could hold a pencil and I’ve always felt compelled to change the world with my words in a positive way. 

My first dream was to be a rock star. I would sit in my room for hours filling notebooks with song after song after song. I even had a cassette tape recorder (yes, the old school kind with a tape and everything)that I would sing the songs onto so I would rember the melodies later on. 

In high school I went to the votech for cosmetology and received my license in the state of Pennsylvania. I’m not quite sure when I decided after that that I wanted to be a writer.  It must have happened somewhere in between wanting to be a rockstar and a cosmetologist because I went to votech so I could work as a cosmetologist while I put myself through college for journalism. 

I started my “college journey” as a writer in 2008, although I had been writing my entire life, my formal training  began here. While attending my local community college I learned as much as I could about the field I wanted to have a career in. My general education classes I can’t say the same for, unfortunately.

However, it took me four years to earn that associate’s degree. I became very discouraged and financially strapped while pursuing my degree. It became harder and harder for me to see the point of my struggles. Finally, I had had enough of my dead end telemarketing job and financial struggles. I made a decision that woulld shake me to the bone and change me in many ways.

To help with my financial hardship, I took a position as a caregiver. Later I learned that if I became certified I would make double what I was making at that point. So off I went and became a certified nurses aid. I worked in that field for two years and paid off my debts. On that journey I met many wonderful people and heard many wonderful stories that I hope to share with the world some day. 

Not all of those stories are happy stories. As a matter of fact, a lot of them are sad, heartbreaking stories. That profession sucked all of the life out of me (not to mention the destructive relationship I was in at the time didn’t help my cause). I was always sad and angry. I was always feeling blue and even considered seeing a doctor for depression. Deep down though, I knew what was wrong. 

Anyone can go to the doctor for a pill, but not everyone can face their daemons and change their lives in order to be happy. I realized after a long time that I needed to make a change because I refused to be medicated and be set on autopilot throuh life. Wit that said, I changed my job and I got out of that relationship and started to rediscover my dream.

Not very long after I started my new job as a warehouse clerk, I met the man I am with today. He was the driving force behind me, pushing me to peruse my dream in writing. With his encouragement and support, I enrolled back into college to get my bachelors degree in journalism  and media communications. 

I can’t begin to tell you how my life has changed. I went thought some really tough times to get to where I am today, and somehow, even though I strayed very far from my path, I made it back to it. Somehow, someway, something guided me back to where I need to be.  I think the irony in it is that I was where I was meant to be the entire time. I had to go through that stuff to appreciate where I am now. Life’s funny like that.

The point is, if you try and keep believing, all of your wildest dreams will come true. As Joyce Meyer says, “I may not be where I need to be, but thank I’m not where I used to be.”

Life’s a journey. Enjoy the ride.

 

I Just Want To Write

It’s 10:30pm. Seems normal for one to be awake, right? For me it’s Wednesday night and that means work Thursday morning. What’s wrong with that? Well, my work day isn’t your typical 9-5. I start at 4am and work until 4:30pm every Thursday, Friday, and Saturday. Needless to say, I wake up at 2am on these days.
Despite the early start time, it never fails that on Wednesday night I can’t sleep. I always have a bunch of ideas that pop into my head about things I should have done during the day, things I need to get done soon, articles I want to write, what I’m going to wear the next day – you name it, it has probably crossed mind on any given Wednesday night.
With that said, I’m writing because it’s Wednesday night and I can’t get out of my head.
Here goes my thoughts at the moment. Bare with me on this one – it’s really just a nice mashing of my brain sprawled out on my WordPress.
This past weekend, I started my Servin ‘ It Up Sundays segment, but I want to do so much more.
Within the past year, yoga and health and fitness have become very important to me. I’m thinking of starting a health and fitness day on here for writings of that nature. At school, I’m thinking of turning health and fitness into my niche column. The only problem I have with that is that I really want to portray in my articles that I am a well-rounded writer and can write about anything.
Speaking of the school paper, my first article was published in it this week and I just got to see it in print today. I am so excited and so proud.

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Anyway, I just have so much floating through my brain right now – this is a really scattered piece. What ties it together is the fact that I just want to write. I love writing and I can’t explain what a gift going back to school for writing is to me at this moment.
It’s like after a super crazy journey over the last six years God said, “Here. You’ve struggled and learned your lesson. You’ve begged me to give you this chance – now that you’re ready, savor every moment. Do everything you can and do it to the best of your ability. Never stop learning.”
I just want to tell all of you out there who feel like you’re going through what seems like the worst time of your life. I know it feels like it will never end, but trust me, if you keep believing you will be delivered in due time. Life gives you obstacles so you can overcome them and become a better person. If I hadn’t overcome some things, I would never be here today doing what I love.
Ask. Believe. Receive. Be grateful.

Thank You!

Hello my lovely readers!

Today is a very special day. At the start of this month I set a goal for myself to reach 300 views throughout the month. With two days to spare I’m so proud to share with you that with your help, my goal was reached.

I thank you all for the support you have been giving me and it’s with my deepest gratitude that I say without you, this never could have happened.

When I turned 20 my life was almost taken from me by the hands of another. By the time I turned 21, I found myself starting what would turn out the be the worst two and a half years of my life. Regardless of everything else that happened in that time frame, the biggest thing that I believe contributed to my misery was that I gave up writing.

I threw the towel in. I closed up shop. I didn’t do it for me. I did it partly out of fear and partly because I couldn’t even be honest with myself. At that time I was so confused and in a very unhealthy, toxic relationship. I was trying to give love and be loved when the only thing I ever really loved I had given up; and that was writing.

There it was – my passion, my heart, my soul – all shriveled up and seemingly lifeless. I thought I lost my love for good.

Some time following, I ended that toxic relationship and began fresh, starting with my number one love: writing. I started this blog as a place to express myself after being silenced for two and a half years. Creating this safe space to rediscover my voice not only in my writing, but also in myself was the only thing I ever thought I would get from this blog.

As time passed, my blog has evolved just like I have. It is a part of me now and more than just a place to write and discover myself. This blog, I feel, is a work of art that all of you helped support over the last year.

You have watched me blossom, and I must say without this outlet, I don’t know that I ever would have realized that my path lies in writing. For that, I’m forever grateful to all of you who have been there to read about what I have to say – and those of you who have encouraged me along the way – I can not place a value on the support and encouragement you have all shown and continue to show me.

To my man, thank you for encouraging not only this blog, but also my continued education to obtain my BA Degree in journalism. You have been such a breath of fresh air to my withered lungs. My gratitude to you and appreciation for you grows more and more every day just as my love for you. Thank you for showing me that it’s not wrong to chase my dreams.

To all of my followers and loyal readers, I have some little writing treats in store for you in the very near future to show you my appreciation and to thank you for your continued support.

I can’t wait to see what the month of February brings! Much love and appreciation for you all!

Angel aka TheGirlDish

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“Remember, Your Blog Is Public”

That’s what my professor told us today. This scared me a bit because of how open and honest I am with all of you. So now here is my question: How open and honest is too open and honest?

“$100,000 for 45 seconds,” my professor explained in connection with education and how long employers will spend looking at your resume.

This statement lead into technology which then lead into watching what we post online. I agree with this. We should be cautious about what we put online because our future employers can and probably will find it.

For those of you who do follow my blog and read it, then you all know the nature of my content on this blog. I started this blog when I felt I didn’t have a voice, or rather, had just found my voice and was afraid to share it with others. I created this blog to post my thoughts, my feelings, and my point of view.

Throughout my posts, you’ve probably leaned more about me than people I see on a regular basis. With that said, I look at all of you (my readers) as my peers who accept me. Maybe that’s where I go wrong. However, I feel comfortable on WordPress and love that I have this platform of expression. Is that something I should be cautious of regarding future employment?

I’m curious to know what you all think. Personally, I don’t post much on my Facebook and I rarely (if ever) use twitter other than an outlet for this blog. WordPress is my preferred form of social media. I post more on here than any other platform.

I’m curious to know what you all think about this. Do you think I should be more cautious of the information I reveal in my blog? Would it be better to have a blog that doesn’t reveal who I am (name wise) and create a blog obscuring my identity?

Please tell me your opinions on this topic because I find that I a have a hard time deciding my own answer. On one hand, I wouldn’t want something I said in a post make me “unable to hire”. On the other, I don’t want to lose this place I’ve created for myself – that all of you helped me build – over fear. What do you think?

Writing A Good Cover Letter

Yes, everyone’s favorite topic – cover letter writing. Most cringe at the thought of sitting down to compose a professional, presentable cover letter. Why is that?

For starters, it’s a lot of work and if you’re not careful, it could turn out to be generic and sound arrogant. In my technical writing class I learned some valuable information on what you should avoid when writing a cover letter.

The first thing you want to do is always write out the date in full. This looks more professional and is more formal than 1/27/15. When you think about it, it doesn’t really take any extra time to do considering Word auto types it after the first few letters.

Next, you want to make sure you have the complete business address. This includes the full name of the person who will be reviewing your resume and cover letter. Never, I repeat, never send a cover letter out “To Whom It May Concern:”. If it is not mentioned in the job listing, search the web, make some phone calls – be sure to not only find their name, but also get the correct spelling. This shows you’ve done your research.

At this point in the cover letter you will want to start your first sentence off with the position you’re applying for and where you found the position listed. Make sure you have the exact position listed so whoever is reading your cover letter knows why they are reading it.

It is important to remember that your cover letter isn’t about you – it’s about how well you match what the company needs. It’s best to avoid using phrases like “I think”, “I believe”, or “I know”. This can come off sounding arrogant and narcissistic. A good thing to do is to research the company. Find out where they’ve been in the past and look to see what their plan is for the future. Use this information to your advantage in your cover letter by telling the company why you want to work there.

Remember to be humble. Find a unique way to tell the company that you hope to be considered for employment.

Whether you’re fresh out of college or an experienced professional, it is important that you take skills that you have and connect them with jobs you have already had. Keep in mind that verbs are about your skills and adjectives and adverbs are about your work ethic. Use this opportunity to create a 3D picture of yourself for your potential employer to see.

Finally, let them know how to contact you. If you have a voicemail setup, make sure it sounds professional. Nothing sounds worse to a potential employer than, “Hey man, it’s so and so. Leave me your digits yo!”. Something more appropriate would be, “You have reached so and so. I am unable to take your call at this time. Leave your name, number, and reason for your call, and I will return your call.” If you have an email address that you’ve been using from high school, make sure you create a new, professional email address in which you can include as well.

This post is derived from notes and class discussion I had Monday afternoon in my technical writing class with Dr. Micheal Martin. Before this class, I can tell you all – I have been writing cover letters the wrong way! I hope this can be a help to some of you out there because I know for me, receiving this information was like finding a goldmine.