5 Things To Help That “Stuck In A Rut” Feeling

Stuck in a rut and feeling down? We’ve all been there before. With all of the crazy twists and turns the ride of life takes us on, it’s no surprise that we sometimes find ourselves stuck in a rut without motivation. I’m going to share with you some tips that might help motivate you enough to get out of that funk.

1. SOCIALIZE!

I know, I know. Who wants to socialize when you’re down in the dumps? I fall victim to the “I hate everyone” mentality too, but just being around a friend or two may help lift your spirits. Force yourself to get out of the house or have a good friend or two come over and surprise you. You’ll thank me later.

2. Channel Your Feelings Into Something Creative.

My favorite thing to do when I feel down and out is write. I usually always find a lot of inspiration when I’m going through a rough patch. Recently, I’ve been loving making YouTube videos. But it doesn’t have to be something so public for you. Maybe you like knitting or painting. Or maybe even cooking can be something to help turn your angst into creativity. Whatever it is, you’ll find that your creative side benefits from times like these and ultimately helps lift you out of that funk.

3. Make It A Point To Brush Your Teeth And Get Ready.

This sounds weird, but when you’re really really feeling down, this can be one of the hardest tasks to complete (next to actually getting out of bed). I find that if I can at least get out of bed and brush my teeth, then I can at least make it down stairs and have a better day than I would just laying in bed. If you’re really feeling wild, take a shower, put on some makeup, and do your hair. As superficial as it sounds, if you look good, you’ll most likely start to feel better.

4. Cry.

It’s okay to cry. Sometimes we just need to. Go ahead. Don’t be afraid. Crying cleanses the soul and usually makes you feel a bit of relief once it’s out. There is no shame in the crying game every one in a while.

5. Seek Professional Counsel.

If you are rely struggling (or not), there is nothing wrong with seeking the help of a professional. Let’s be real. Sometimes talking to your friends and family makes you feel judged and guilty. Sometimes you just need a neutral party to listen and give guidance. Even if you think what you’re dealing with isn’t big enough for professional attention, go anyway. You might be surprised to see how much it can actually help you and how much that little thing was really affecting your life.

 

And there it is, ladies and gents. If you really can’t seem to find a way on your own to get out of that rut, remember that asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It actually shows strength. What are some things you like to do that help pull you out of a funk? Let me know in the comments below!

Have a lovely day!

xoxoAngel Marie

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Why I’ve Been Away

Happy Monday, Everyone!!!!

So I’m sure some of you have noticed that I haven’t been posting frequently. Since I’m out of school for the summer I have more time and should be posting more, right?

Well as always, you can count on life to throw you some things you don’t really expect. With that said, let me fill you in on what the heck has been going on.

I finished my semester at the state university I was attending for Journalism. During the course of that semester, I lost my passion for why I was in school in the first place. The main reason was because I didn’t feel like I was learning at my full potential. A few of the classes I was in were like refreshers from courses I took while earning my Associates Degree in Journalism. That was disappointing considering I was in junior and senior level journalism classes.

What really had me questioning again was the battle in my head that is: “Nursing vs. Journalism”. For those of you who have been following me for a while, you know a little bit about that. Actually, here are a few past posts if you’re interested:

https://thegirldish.wordpress.com/2015/01/13/day-9-courage-is-not-the-absence-of-fear/

https://thegirldish.wordpress.com/2015/01/09/the-journey-within/

https://thegirldish.wordpress.com/2014/10/21/broken-castle-by-the-shore/

So if you want to read the roller-coaster that is my brain, you can read those above and stalk my blog for more cause Lord knows there are more ;p

Very long story short, I’ve decided to pursue once again my degree  in nursing and my fear of coming out with that for the second time is pretty great. I know people will look down on my decision and probably think that I am all over the place but I’m very excited about it and I’m looking forward to a new chapter in my life. This change will require me to take on a new job and I’m extremely happy for the change.

Also, throughout the course of the next eight months, I will be taking on yoga teacher training which I am so pumped for. I’ve concluded in my head that I would love to focus on holistic healthcare after I receive my degree and work experience in the nursing field. I plan to use my yoga teacher certification to aid that dream in big ways.

And lastly, I just started my first day of my third 40 Days to Personal Revolution Program at the yoga studio I go to and I’m so excited to be sharing that journey with all of you again. Be on the look for my first journal entry!

xoxoAngel Marie

The Journey WIthin

Last night I was typing up what I thought to be a really great post for all of you. Unfortunately, I pressed the shift key to capitalize my next sentence and the entire post deleted right before my eyes. I was devastated to say the least. After proofing this one, I’m confident that I have delivered to all of you something even better than that last post and I’m so happy to share this with you all.

So without further a due, here it is: The Journey Within.

I wanted to take this time to share a few things with all of you. Yesterday at work I had one hell of a day. I could feel myself in my desk chair ready to snap like a rubber band that has been stretched passed its capacity. To keep it simple, my job has really been taking a toll on me.

During my lunch yesterday I decided to read some of my 40 Days to Personal Revolution book to clam my mind. What I found was not only profound, but completely astounding to me. The “ah-ha” moment happened for sure.

I’d like to share with you now two of the passages that really hit me where I needed to feel it.

“It is simply the willingness to see in full truthfulness what we need to face within ourselves and our lives so that we may get into right alignment.” – Baron Baptiste, 40 Days to Personal Revolution

This hit me harder than when Triple H hit Shawn Michaels in the back with a sledgehammer at the 2002 Summer Slam street-fight match.

Years prior to today, I would try to mask the truth from myself. I couldn’t make a decision about my life to save it. Was the relationship I was in at the time toxic? (Yes!) Was it good for me? (Hell no!) Should I pursue my BA Degree in Journalism? (Yes). Should I go to nursing school even though I hated my career as a Certified Nurses Aid? (Why would you if you already know you don’t like it?) Should I just stay out of school all together? (That’s what your relationship at the time drilled into your head.)

All of these things and much more would fill my brain as I’d lay awake at night restless and miserable. What I am seeing now is that my head was so clouded with so many things that I couldn’t see my path. I wasn’t ready to accept the truth and see situations for what they were. That was partly because of having so many things jumbled in my brain, but also because I felt the need to make everyone else happy. That was not leading me down a clear path.

The path I was on was covered in shrubs, dead trees, and darkness. I felt I had no light to lead me, nor any clarity on any one thing. It took a long series of events for me to see I was doing it all wrong and now I’m proud to say I am out of that toxic relationship and in a new awesome relationship where my opinions are valued and I am loved. I am pursing my BA Degree in Journalism at a State University and have left the nursing profession all together.

In the last year my life has taken a turn for the better and I couldn’t be more grateful. Now I feel I am on a clear path. The best part of this is, the path is clear only to what is in front of my at the moment. The rest of the path is unknown and I’m more than okay with that. I’m not saying it will always be this way, but for this moment, I’m so happy to have this realization and it brings me even more joy to share it with all of you. I love you all for your endless support and encouragement.

The second and final thing I wanted to share with you is this other quote from Baron’s book, 40 Days to Personal Revolution. It reads: “control freaks are usually insomniacs – they can’t let go.”

Coming from one fellow control freak, that statement is right on the money. My need to constantly try to figure out the next steps and keep everything “the way it should be” was making me lose touch with the present moment. I was forgetting how to be happy with what was. I was losing myself. I feel I’ve come a long way from a year ago, but these are things I still struggle with.

Like I said before, I’m happy on my path right now only seeing what’s in front of me. However, sometimes I do get curious and try to see what’s over the hill and far, far away. Nonetheless, thank the powers that be for this amazing transformation thus far.

What I’m working on now within myself is really learning to let go. I don’t want to be burdened by the past, nor hindered by the future or what I try to predict the future to be. The bottom line is right now is all that matters. It’s all we have. The present moment is the only thing that is true even though it is fleeting.

Like Mike Ness from Social Distortion sings in Reach for the Sky:

“So if you please take this moment,Try if you can make it last
Don’t think about no future and just forget about the past..”

I hope this was as exciting for you all to read as it was for me to write (even the second time around). May the world bring you joy and everything that is good.

Namaste.

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An Attitude of Gratitude

I was reading this post by Jess J today http://jessj.wordpress.com/2015/01/01/2015-love/ about her version of a “new years resolution”. What she does is she has a word of the year, or as she calls it she’ll, “set an intention” (which I love, by the way). We are taught in yoga to set an intention at the beginning of each practice and I love that she worded it that way in her blog. Anyway, she goes on to talk about her intention for 2015. I’m not going to explain all of it because I think you should all give it a read – wonderful post – so you can check that out.

What I decided was to take a similar approach with my 2015 “resolution”. My initial resolution is to blog every day on wordpress. If it’s something I don’t feel comfortable sharing, then I decided I would write it in my journal. So there’s that.

However, here is what I’m going to be focusing on in 2015: GRATITUDE.

Now it took me a little while to decide on gratitude. At first I was thinking love like Jess J. But I then I realized I complain way too much. I really do complain a lot. Sometimes it’s about work, home, money, ect… and I think right now is the time to stop.

What intention can I set to minimize my complaining? Appreciation came to my mind. I decided I should probably look it up because “gratitude” was also rolling around in my thoughts.

I opened my dictionary.com app and typed in appreciation. Here’s what I found:

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Now it looks good at first. Then I read #2. “the act of estimating the qualities of things and giving them their proper value.”

I give things value (or lack there of), however, giving things their “proper” value is something I am not good for obviously because of my complaining (and other reasons). For example, I can see myself and see no value, whereas someone else can find value in me. Another example that came to me as I looked this up and mulled it over in my mind was living with my parents. I DO NOT find much value living at home as a 24 year old adult. However, one might suggest having a roof over their head is something of great value and something to appreciate. So that’s when I decided appreciation was the wrong word for me to focus on in 2015.

When I came to that realization, I decided to look up gratitude. This is what it said:

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This is exactly what I want to focus on. I need to start having gratitude and being thankful for the things I have in life rather than COMPLAIN about them and wish they were different. Yoga is helping teach me to be happy in the present and also helping me be grateful. An attitude of gratitude is definitely what I need to focus on in 2015.

What is your new year’s resolution or something your going to work on for 2015?

 

Racism

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I was reading this blog earlier http://blog.longreads.com/2014/10/08/i-have-achieved-a-modicum-of-success-but-i-never-stop-working-roxane-gay-on-the-price-of-black-ambition/

It talked about how only 1 out of ever 10 black people are capable of intelligence and talent.
Now as I’m trying to sleep, I made a really neat connection with a discussion in my psychology class class related to conditioning and racism.

The whole class seemed to have a preconditioned racist/discriminatory view of one thing or another.

Now, I can’t speak for the Latinos, but it seems they are more open minded than whites when it comes to cultural differences. I can’t speak on behalf of the black community either.

However, I think from early on whites have always been conditioned to believe they are superior to other races. I think black people have been conditioned to look down on white people for this. As for my experience in school, I don’t remember learning too much about Latinos. I think the racial tension there started when Latinos started coming to the United States of America. I think white people still had that subconscious, possibly even ingrained thought of white supremacy. Maybe that’s how white/Latino tension happened.

This lead me to thinking, are our thought patters inherited? If so, did white people adapt to the thought that whites are above other races?
Also, have we all been conditioned to be racist/discriminatory?
In the United States of America, I believe we have been.

Two things I hate and then I will end my random thoughts on this.
One: Do you ever wonder why South America is not taken into consideration when we say “America”. When we say “America” it’s usually in reference to the United States of America.
Two: I STRONGLY dislike when I tell people I’m learning Spanish and their response is, “They should learn our language. You shouldn’t have to learn
theirs.” I think that is the most horrible thing anyone can say. The United States of America doesn’t even have an official language by Federal law. http://www.nationsonline.org/oneworld/american_languages.htm

Either way, I think everyone is a little racist or discriminatory at times and I really believe we should all try to make our world a better place by treating everyone the way we would want to be treated regardless of how others treat us. Because if everyone did that, we’d all treat each other with respect.

So there’s my thoughts on racism/discrimination.
What do you think? I’d love to see some different points of view on this topic!

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From Skid Row to Flying Crows: My Experience from the Handstand, Hugs, and Highways Tour 2014 at Mystic Power Yoga

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I was blessed enough to be a part of the Handstand, Hugs, and Highways Tour 2014 with Baptiste affiliate studio, Mystic Power Yoga. My life has been forever changed and I can’t even begin to explain to all of you how. Nonetheless, I will try my best to share with you what has been shared with me.

When I walked into the Mystic Studio I could feel the excitement in the air. I could sense the curiosity of my fellow yogis as the looks on some of their faces was unsure what they were really about to experience. I could see how some were just ready for a good sweaty yoga class. By the end of the two and a half hour experience, everyone was glowing, rid of whatever expression crossed their faces just hours before. Let me share with you my perception of his beautiful night.

Walter and Acha are two young men from Kenya who participate in a program called the African Yoga Project. What it does, is it creates jobs for people in Kenya so they do not have to resort to stealing, prostitution, and other crimes to take care of themselves and their families. When I heard Acha and Walters’ stories of living on the streets, drug use, and theft, my heart broke. I could tell that they both really didn’t want that life – that was the life they were practically forced to live. They both described a hopelessness that they felt during those times in their lives. Just like most of us, they struggled to find hope, peace, and acceptance in life.

They were both introduced to yoga in Kenya and that’s where they began to change their lives. By finding inner peace through yoga, they have been able to travel the world and teach so many people not only their incredible story, but the gift of yoga.

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I have never been more challenged in a yoga class like I was with Acha and Walter. Physically, it was the most demanding class I’ve participated in and mentally and emotionally, the most rewarding. What I have learned from them is a priceless lesson, and that is, we are all connected. We are all one.

They taught me to give something as simple as a smile can change someone’s day.They showed me to share a bit of sweat, growth, and energy is probably the best thing for the soul. They opened my eyes. They opened my eyes to what’s really going on in the world around us. They opened my heart and showed me how to love and care about strangers. They opened my mind to all of the amazing possibilities life can bring. They gave me something I can never thank them enough for – hope.

As this all comes full circle, they gave me hope after receiving hope themselves. Now I feel my mission is to share that hope with all of you. I feel like I’m so blessed and I take many of those blessings for granted every day. After catching a glimpse of what life is like for people in Kenya, I now understand a little bit more how amazingly wonderful and blessed my life really is.

I received many messages from this yoga class, one of which being to let yourself GROW. Growth is essential for change. It may hurt, but it’s worth it. Another message I took from this experience is to accept yourself for yourself, your past and everything that makes you an individual. In turn, accept other for who they are as well.

The last valuable lessons I learned from this class that I wish to share with you at this time, is to love. We are all connected – we are all one. There is not one soul more valuable than another. We are all equal and individually beautiful. Give to the world – give your love to the world and the world will give you love back. Although we are all different, our hearts all beat the same. 

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Thank you to Walter, Acha, and my yoga teacher Michele for making this all possible.

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**All Photos taken by Rebecca Bicking

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